Universal wishes (written 5th December 2014)

We’re in LA. It’s not the Bahamas (where we’ve been for the last week for work) but we’ve had a good time. Yesterday was my brother-in-laws birthday and we decided to take him to Universal Studios to celebrate. A fun-filled day of riding the rides and taking the tours followed by dinner at a delicious vegan place (not somewhere we normally have chosen but it was great!) and a few drinks at various bars. It was a really nice day, and good to catch up with him after nearly a year. To top it all off we arrive back at the hotel to an email from San Diego Fertility Center. We have our cycle dates!

I feel excited and nervous and sick all at the same time. Excited that it’s actually happening, but absolutely terrified that it won’t work and we will run out of next steps. I email the girls at work to make sure I can take the time off and we lock it in. I’m not sure what or when to tell everyone else. We were hoping to keep this cycle a bit more of a secret this time round but it seems near impossible to hide the fact that we’ll not only be away for two weeks, but won’t even be in the country.

I also feel bad keeping people in the dark as our friends and family are invested in this nearly as much as we are. I would love it to be a big surprise for them, for this cycle to work and to be able to announce to them all that we’re pregnant in that same “SURPRISE!” way that normal fertile people do. On the other hand, I worry that they’ll be offended that we’ve kept things from them. My family especially as they’ve always had our back, been amazingly supportive and I know how desperately they want this. What do I do? Do I tell them or not?

We have some friends wedding the week before we leave for San Diego and, as much as I’d love to be there to see them tie the knot, I was kind of hoping our cycle would be at the same time as their wedding as then we’d have an obvious excuse to be away from home for a while. The only other thing I can think of is a summer holiday but the fact that we may have to get American SIM cards for our phones and won’t be able to answer calls/texts on our normal numbers may raise suspicion.

It’s a hard call but I think the answer is to tell our family but keep it a surprise for our friends. We have to tell at least my Dad and step-mum as we need to ask them if they’ll housesit and look after our cats for us while we’re away. And I can’t tell one part of my family and not the others. So family it is and friends will have a surprise. Hopefully.   Hopefully in a couple of month’s time we’ll be able to surprise them with some good news.



One response to “Universal wishes (written 5th December 2014)

  • spiritbabycomehome

    I would not waste one moment feeling badly for keeping others in the dark. This isn’t about them (us). It is about the two of you and your future family. You do what feels right for you. We will all be over the moon when you finally share your amazing news…. Soon enough. Hugs and high hopes!

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